Just like divorce means separating a lot of possessions and memories, it also means separating your financial affairs. Get the facts on divorcing your finances here.
I am about to get a divorce. We currently have a joint account as well as
separate accounts. Can my soon-to-be ex withdraw an enormous amount (more than
half) legally from our joint account even though we agreed (verbally, not in
writing) that the joint account would remain in effect for paying bills
(mortgage, maintenance, utilities, etc.) since we both are still living in the
home.
Nicole
We're sorry to hear about Nicole's pending divorce. Sadly she's got plenty of
company. According the CDC (Center for Disease Control) there were approximately
1.1 million divorces in 2004.
Nicole is right to be concerned about her finances as she goes through the
divorce process. Just as money is often the source of marital problems, it often
causes headaches during the separation and after a divorce has been finalized.
Even couples that have made an effort to keep their finances separate will
probably find some areas where their financial affairs have become entangled.
The simple answer to Nicole's question is "yes" her Nearly-Ex can make major
withdrawals from a joint checking account.
In a joint bank account, either person can withdraw all of the money.
Regardless of any agreements between the parties. That's true even if it were
Nicole's account before they were married, she's made every deposit and her
Nearly-Ex was added to the account merely for convenience. Even if her Nearly-Ex
puts it in writing, he still can go down to the bank and take every cent. Either
before or after the divorce.
A joint account is only good for people who completely trust each other.
Usually that's not the case in the middle of a divorce.
What can Nicole do? One solution would be for each of them to write a check
for one half of each household bill. More work? Sure, but a whole lot safer.
Nicole really needs to look beyond their checking account. Joint debts can
become a real problem. The lender will look for payment from anyone listed on a
debt. The same thing is true for mortgage payments and credit card accounts. If
both of them are on the loan, the lender can go after either of them for
repayment. For the entire loan. Regardless of what Nicole and Nearly-Ex agreed
during the divorce.
And just because the court orders her Ex to make payments doesn't guarantee
that he won't lose a job and fall behind. If she's still on the loan, the lender
will start calling asking her for payment. Any missed payments will reflect on
her credit score. Short of making the payments herself, there's really not much
she can do but plead with her Ex to catch up.
Any loan or credit card that has both Nicole and her Nearly-Ex listed should
be closed out or refinanced by one or the other. That might not be easy. For
instance, the bank won't think that a loan to one of them is as safe a loan to
both. The reason is simple. Now the lender only has one possible source of
payment. Not two. Because of that the lender may want a higher interest rate.
Nicole and Nearly-Ex should also retitle any jointly owned property. Owning
joint assets with your Ex can be troublesome. Even if the divorce was friendly.
Joint ownership creates both privileges and responsibilities that aren't shared
very well by divorced people.
For instance, both parties must agree to sell any joint property. Nicole
wouldn't be happy if a year from now her Ex refused to sign off when she wanted
to sell her car. But if both names are on the title, she'll need both signatures
to sell it.
Once all that's completed, Nicole will also want to check her other financial
documents and make the appropriate updates. Her Ex might be listed as the
beneficiary of her life insurance and IRA. Nicole will also need an updated
will. Don't forget bank safe deposit boxes or auto and home insurance policies.
Is that a lot of work? Sure it is. But just like divorce means separating a
lot of possessions and memories, it also means separating your financial
affairs.